What does it mean to be happy?
For every person happiness is something different. For some it is climbing on steep slopes, others – in the embrace of a loved one, for the third – in contemplation of a work of art …
Happiness’ Where lies happiness? ” – It’s one of the questions that people have asked for thousands of years. This is one of the issues that everyone consciously or subconsciously sets and himself. This is one of the questions that a person will never be able to answer.
Each of us has his own idea of happiness: for some it is the satisfaction of achieving a goal; for others is love, friendship, respect, material goods; third is satisfaction in life. Many believe that man is inherently happy that life is happiness. Others seek their fortunes in death. Maybe if someone or something could cover all subjective viewpoints, bringing them together in a layered model would have received a picture which, if not happiness in its true form, it will at least be close as possible to him.
Many agree that only man can be happy. Or at least only rational beings, because “man is the only known intelligent being,” therefore only he can be happy. And if you ask the supporters of this theory why they think so, they will answer: “What is the only creature that can think and evaluate? – Man! What is happiness? What is it? – In understanding and evaluating it, you’ve got.
What is happiness?
Happiness is an emotional state in which a person experiences emotions ranging from satisfaction and pleasure in complete bliss and joy too. Antipode of happiness is a disaster. According to the philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900) true happiness is inseparable from the instincts, as long as life is on the rise. When happy man often laughs.
For each, however the term “happiness” carries different meaning – for the hungry – to feed to the patient – to mend and lonely – have someone beside him. But happiness is nothing but an uncountable noun. No lot or a little happiness, because happiness is happiness and with a capital letter “Z”.
Happiness is all around us and even daily, most ordinary events can wake him up. But often we can appreciate that something we make you feel happy and only when we lose it, we understand that you need to be happy and what little we served zhivota.Tochno therefore many people say they are found true happiness. They could we oppose the following thought: “People look around more carefully! Happiness is that feeling that makes you not hitting the smile from his face and you want to call it all with you is wrong and nothing to worry about. ”
Happiness and philosophy
Happiness is one of the main categories of ethics. Ethical category as it develops even in ancient philosophy. Aristotle introduced the concept ethics called happiness the highest good, because every human behavior is ultimately motivated by the pursuit of happiness. But there is hardly any philosophical school in antiquity, which is so closely linked to the philosophical problem of happiness as the school of the Epicureans.
Happiness and ways for its achievement became a major theme in their teaching. Although the Epicureans have gained notoriety in history as preachers of rackety life (mainly due to the attitude of the Christian church to the teachings of Epicurus), their word for bliss actually describes a very moderate ideal of earthly happiness.
Happiness and religion
Happiness is also the subject of religious doctrines.
In Christianity it is related to the doctrine of grace, which is the relationship between man and the Holy Spirit. In Christian religious consciousness happiness is associated mainly with the afterlife and the idea of paradise that is destined for the righteous.
In Eastern religions the concept of happiness is related to the release from earthly passions, which takes place in the so-called Nirvana – blissful state of extinction of individual consciousness and drip into the universal spirit Brahman.
In Kabbalah – the science of happiness – it ceases to be a mystery. This elusive concept could be divided into its constituent parts and to be understood. And like the formula e = mc2, there is a formula for achieving eternal happiness.
The dollar is always greener on the opposite side
Does money bring happiness? “If I had money,” says a typical dreamer seeking happiness, “I could have or do whatever I want: to travel around the world to buy everything I like to be independent and to keep your life in your own hands … In short, money is what I would provide happiness. is not that so? ”
Surprisingly (or not), many recent studies have shown that even when we have enough money to meet their basic needs, they cease to bring us happiness. One popular study showed that even lottery winners who were very happy at the moment of success, very soon lose their euphoria.
Not long after their mood returns to that state in which it was before the happy event. In fact, once gaining more money than needed to cover our basic needs, the joy of owning them is overshadowed by questions like: “Did I have as much as Ivanovi?” Because no matter how we win, we are always it seems that money neighbor have one or two shades greener than ours.
Economics of Happiness
What free time? If we could work less and rest more, would we acquired with so longed happiness? Scientists examining the question of happiness coolly reject this hypothesis as possible. On the “World Map of Happiness” recently published by the Department of Psychology at the University of Leysestar, England, hard-working US citizens occupy the front 23rd place, while on leave in France crawl in the ranking with desperate to 62nd place.
Then what would make us feel happy? That is the question that leaves researchers amazed. In -Easy to identify factors that do not make us happier than to give practical formula for true happiness. So how to capture that specific sense of happiness?
Mechanics of Happiness
To decipher the code of happiness, the first step is to realize who we really are and what is our true nature. It’s very simple: we represent the desire to be happy. In other words, we all strive to obtain pleasure and enjoyment, or as mentioned in the Kabbalah, we are “the desire to receive.”
Perhaps this sounds very familiar. Our nature, the desire to receive, is much more complicated than we imagine it. It is not just a constant desire that constantly urges us to seek happiness. It is this desire to get motivates our every action, even the smallest and insignificant act and our every thought.
The desire to get seeks filling at any time and does not give us rest until we fill that need. It determines how we feel: if we meet, we are happy, feel good, our life is like a song; if we can not fill this desire, we feel upset, angry, depressed, we come to a state of rage and suicidal thoughts.
You’ve probably guessed already about it, but the thing that often escapes us – and cipher for decoding of happiness – is the fact that once our “desire to receive” is already fulfilled pleased that we have experienced thus far, disappears .
The great Irish writer Oscar Wilde is certainly aware of this when he wrote these lines: “There are only two tragedies in this world. One is not to achieve what you want, and the other is to get it. The latter is the worst, the it is a real tragedy. ”
The mechanism of this process is very easy. Initially, we want a thing and do everything possible to achieve it. Currently, we receive what we have longed feverishly, we experience pleasure, joy and delight. Or in other words, the initial clash of desire and his case is the supreme moment of enjoyment. So far so good, but the process is not yet completed. At the moment we get something that we strongly desire subsides. In other words, we gradually cease to desire what we have already achieved, and as a result, pleasure fades until disappearing completely.
For example, you know what it feels like when you’re hungry, you can eat steak as big as a ten (for vegetarians, this could be a huge piece of fried cheese). But what happens when you start to eat? The first bite is pure ecstasy, and the next bite is wonderful. The third is a pleasant and another is acceptable, but another is now indifferent. And next bite is: “I can not, I feel bad …”
This principle works for everything, not just food. We can spend years dreaming about a shiny sports car and when finally obtain it, we are delighted – well, at least the first few minutes or days. Soon, however, we feel the euphoria gradually decreases and at some point it ceases to our pleasure. And every time you look at the car, all I feel is the weight of huge loan that will have to pay out in the next ten years! Economics Professor Richard Estarlin the University of Southern California, a leading scientist dealing with the question of happiness, calls this phenomenon “hedonichesko adjustment ‘, which means:” We get a new car and get used to it. Get new clothes and again accustomed to them … We adapt to the pleasure we get too fast … ”
This can not end of the story, right? Ultimately, even if things look this way, we are still looking for a permanent source of enjoyment. Is Nature has thrown into this vicious circle to remain forever unhappy? Is happiness not only in fairy tales, the story of Santa Claus, which will never come true?
(Secret) formula of happiness
In fact we are closer to him than we imagine. In fact, the latest research on the issue of happiness and growing awareness of our continuous feeling of dissatisfaction us closer to true happiness. Gradually we begin to understand the pattern: happiness has nothing to do with how much money you do or how successful was your marriage – in fact it has nothing to do with any kind of pleasure that we strive to achieve. We begin to reveal the fundamental truth that happiness can be felt using a different principle of obtaining pleasure.
It has become clear why we are not able to experience unending pleasure of the things around us – because at the moment the pleasure of meeting the desire, the last being undermined. And since our desire is now neutralized, we become incapable of enjoying the pleasure.
The key to happiness is adding another element in this whole process – the element ‘intent’. This means that we continue to want as earlier, but attach a different focus of our desire: outwards, that is, if we give to someone else. In other words, the intention turns our desire in the way of achieving pleasure, and in such a way that ensures its continuous flow, it fills our desire, following the intention. And our desire will be able to receive supremely without danger of drying up.
This is the formula for getting boundless pleasure, or permanent happiness. When a person applies this formula, he actually goes through a complete transformation and began to feel different kinds of pleasures. Kabbalah calls them “spiritual” and they are perennial.
In conclusion – a brief overview
- What is happiness?
It is a feeling that fills us when we satisfy “the desire to receive.”
- Why this feeling leaves us?
Because the pleasure neutralizes our desire and without desire we can not feel pleasure.
- What is the formula for a feeling of infinite pleasure?
It is expressed in the addition of “intention to give” to our “will to receive” so pleased to continue to flow through our desire indefinitely.
True happiness is nearby and fully achievable, then we can expect to learn how to feel and how to add intention to our desire. In any consists happiness, each of us has the right to be happy.
And finally – a parable
A merchant sent his son to learn the secret of happiness in the wisest man. The young man walked forty days in the desert until he reached a beautiful castle on top of a mountain. But instead of meeting a holy man, the hero of our story ended up in a room in which the king has great animation: continuous entry and exit dealers on the corners talked a lot of people and a small orchestra played soft melodies. There were large table covered with the most delicious dishes from the area. The sage listened closely to the purpose of his visit, but told him that at the moment does not have time to explain the secret of happiness. He offered the young man to walk through the palace and return him after two hours.
– I ask but one favor – sage added, handing the boy a teaspoon, in which washed-out two drops of oil. – While you walk, carry this spoon and be careful not to spill oil. The young man began to climb and descend the stairs in the palace, not take her eyes off the spoon. Two hours later he returned to Sage.
– So did you see the Persian rugs that are in my dining room? – Asked the sage. – Did you see the garden that took the Master Gardeners for ten years until it is done? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?
Embarrassed, the young man confessed that nothing was seen. Throughout careful not to spill the drops of oil that the wise man he was entrusted.
– Go then and meet the wonderful things that are part of my world – said the sage. – You can not trust someone if you do not know his house. Already more relaxed, the young man took the spoon and went again to walk through the palace, this time his attention was drawn to all works of art that hung on the walls and ceilings. Finally he returned to Sage and told him in detail about everything that he saw.
– But where are the two drops of oil that you’ve committed? – Asked the sage.
Looking at the spoon, the young man noticed that they were spilled.
– That’s the only advice I can give you – said the sage of sages. – The secret of happiness lies in it to enjoy the wonders of the world, but never forgetting the two drops of oil in the spoon.